Releasing Limiting BeliefsThis works whether you have adopted limiting beliefs from childhood or adulthood.
“We learn our belief systems as very little children, and then we move through life creating experiences to match our beliefs. Look back in your own life and notice how often you have gone through the same experience.” -Louise L. Hay
What are the results you’ve produced in the various areas of your life?
Where are your results not in alignment with what you really want to be, do or have?
What area of your life have you really tried to improve but, no matter what, things just didn’t get better?
Your limiting decisions are hiding out in the areas where you’re producing results that you don’t want.
Your limiting decisions have shaped everything you do. They have prevented you from seeing opportunities and maybe even discouraged you from trying at all. Time to bring them out of hiding! Once you do that, you have a choice.
How do you identify those hidden saboteurs?
First, what do you say to yourself about that area? For example, if you’re having trouble finding a relationship, maybe you explain it with something like “women only want men who have a lot of money” or “guys are only interested in younger women”. Anything you say to yourself to justify why it isn’t working out for you is a limiting belief.
Will that belief
Sometimes limiting decisions are not that conscious. Maybe you’ve learned to stop your negative thoughts before they take over, and you’ve have gotten good at positive self-talk. So, you don’t hear any limiting beliefs in your head. But you’ll know you’ve still got a limiting decision lurking if your emotions are negative about that area.
For example, if you’re bogged down with financial pressures, how do you feel about it? Anxious? Angry? Hopeless? If you stay with that emotion and acknowledge it for a moment, you’ll find the limiting belief right beneath it. For example, anxiety might be saying, what will people think of me? Anger might reflect …life isn’t fair to people like me. Underneath hopelessness might be, I’m just not strong enough or smart enough to figure this out.
Now that you’ve identified some limiting beliefs, what do you do with them?
Step 1: Write the limiting belief down. Play detective and follow your thoughts and emotions to discover the limiting beliefs that hold you back. Put them on paper and stare them in the face! You might note how strong each belief is and what emotions they elicit in you.
Step 2: Acknowledge that these are beliefs, not truths! This is often the hardest step. Many people believe their limitations are real. Here’s the place where choice comes in. Which are you more interested
Step 3: Try on a different belief. Use your imagination and try on a belief that is aligned with what you want. It might be something like “My financial difficulties in the past have taught me so much that I’m fully prepared to handle them now.” or “Now that I’ve been in an unhealthy relationship, I’ve learned what to look for in a happy, loving partner.”
The trick is to go beyond just saying it. You want to really step into this new belief and feel how it feels. Done thoroughly, Steps 2 and 3 will go a long way to dismantling your old limiting decision.
Step 4: Take different action. This might feel scary but act as if your new belief is true. In other words, if you really are the kind of man women adore, how would you act at parties? Who might you ask out? If you really are capable and have learned a tremendous amount from past financial difficulties, what steps would you take? If you really are the kind of person who eats healthy food, what will you put in your grocery cart?
If you avoid taking any steps based on your new belief, you will just feed your old limiting belief. Taking action, even the smallest step, will help solidify your new empowering decision. Your first steps don’t have to be perfect, just headed in the right direction.
And of course, be sure to acknowledge yourself when you’ve taken that step. This is the beginning to uncovering what has been getting in the way of creating a life that you love, and it is through this self-reflection we can finally head down the path of that long-awaited change.